#1. Seek to know first, then to be understood
This is self explanatory, and lets you make good buddies, even with women. Not all girls are fair, but in expressing honesty yourself and willingness, you give others an opportunity to open up to you. Without this, nobody can open your decision. Finally you'll meet a guy, or woman, that opens up in a way that produces a good bond.
In nightclub scenarios, talking about yourself helps to put the other person at ease. The woman will follow the man's lead, typically, if he is congruent enough.
#2.
Give (value) first until you get
Rather than seeing the game as a winner takes all experience, see it as a providing worth encounter. You are here to assist others feel good about themselves and have good emotions. You are a professional very good emotions booster. Think about yourself as a comedian, or a good friend, or a stand up man. These ideals help you move towards the person who you want to become.
If you seek nothing, then any potential benefits are just more positive experiences, instead of feeling entitled or feeling as you expect something out of somebody. What gets measured, gets managed
Start measuring your collections, recording your songs, or have a buddy picture your strategy. Watching yourself in 3D and with evidence blasts any blind spots or excuses one may have regarding the game. I see men making the very same mistakes for ages. If you adhere to some numbers-driven, data-driven method, you will improve.
Attempting to be financially accountable? Quantify your monthly or weekly income vs. expenses, and you'll begin to find a pattern. Studies have shown that individuals who assess and manage their financial statements at least two times per month are much more financially well-off than people who do so less frequently.
#4.
Procedure over result
Concentrate on the process and learning every single skill-set, over the particular outcome of one particular night. Over time, yes, your results do matter, if things are going nowhere, then you need to examine the actual reasons as to why. But have patience, and pay attention to your process. With a solid process in place with the right levers, you're certain to get outcomes. Embrace good pain and Great fear
Short term comfort = long-term pain. Too tired to go out? Too lazy to have a healthy meal rather than a bad one at McDonald's? These little decisions add up to the trajectory of your lifetime. Don't enable losers affect you, they're people and they have a right for their life decisions and perogatives. See them as just individuals. Or, if you are like me and sometimes have to deal with being annoyed at them, save your anger and see them as pawns -- pawns which are the most loyal are the ones you treat as many human will fight hardest for you. They're your troops in the battle towards your ambitions.
When I was visiting San Francisco, I realized my natural state is that of a pioneer, and in travel podryw w pracy and experiencing new things, my mind isn't able to break and instead moves extremely quickly. The high level of endorphin make me feel more knowingly about the world and my life and I reach a new country that's pure and addictive. This can only come from a small bit of good fear, and also the capacity to step out of my comfort zone time and again. Never take rejection too personally
You can never know the other person's lifestyle or their worldviews without talking to them, so any approach has a chance of being rejected. So what? Accept humiliation, but point is, no rumination -- thinking about it over and over again and making it worse than it is. See things as they are. No better, no worse. Truth is, most"rejections" don't matter since you won't ever see her again, and everything you need is ONE. I have seen men in wheelchairs who get women to enjoy them, because they have found somebody who does and they don't give up.
You defining your success -- what's"achievement" for you? Success may be getting rejected by 3 women! Other people do not determine your success, you do. Win the war without a fight (or just seem to do this to the public)
Remaining unaffected by negative outcomes in addition to positive ones (it's ok to feel good, but do not allow it to go to your ego. Do your best -- attempt to decipher obvious mistakes and garnish with real http://query.nytimes.com/search/sitesearch/?action=click&contentCollection®ion=TopBar&WT.nav=searchWidget&module=SearchSubmit&pgtype=Homepage#/seduction information. Don't dwell on details -- she might have rejected you for any range of irrational reasons. Kanye West recently touched upon the notion of"fighting and winning". "I've fought many battles and I always win, but Jay-Z, you merely see his wins. I'd like to be like him, in which you just see me win, instead of all of the fighting and then the win later". Hugh Hefner is the same way. He does not get twisted in the terrible PR and media narrative. He just wins. Eventually, she came back and married himand Hefner, at 83, proceeds to win the match without appearing like he is trying at all.